Sexual Health

Сall your attention to some rules which can help you:
1. It is best if you feel deeply (and even better if you feel love) for your partner; emotionally empty sex is always a let down.
2. There is more than pregnancy to worry about when having sex, you must as well think about STDs and the emotional after effects.
3. As hard as it sounds don’t think too much about what it will be like, this is asking for problems, performance nervousness and displeasure.
4.Foreplay is necessary as it gives you time to get used to the new feelings (both emotional and physical) that you are sure to have - don’t cut it short and don’t be afraid to stop at this point if you start having doubts.
5. There is no such thing as owing someone sex. You can talk about it for weeks, get the birth control handled, be “right into it” and still change your mind.

From the very beginning you should have a discussion about it with your partner-to-be well earlier than hand and know that you are both sure. If there are any doubts, stop here, self-restraint in a relationship is normal and acceptable.
-Go over your birth control needs and alternatives and ensure that you have waited long enough for the choice you make to be successful. Think about talking with a friend or family member about their experiences.
-Use a condom no matter what other birth control arrangements have been made and in spite of what your partner-to-be tells you about his/her sexual history.
-Do not be drunk, on drugs or otherwise unable to make an informed decision, and make certain that your partner-to-be is in a decision making state.

-Ensure that you care about your partner-to-be and that you are not “doing it” for reasons other than what you feel. Looking cool, fitting in or just wanting to lose your virginity are not good motives to have sex.
-Go anywhere relaxed, quiet, private and (preferably) nice. Choose a place where you are not likely to be interrupted.
-Don’t imagine too much about how worried you are, loosen up and take a deep breath.
-Spend a long time kissing and touching your partner. This is called “foreplay” and the more there is of it, the better.
-Talk to your partner, say kind, gentle and loving things. Primary say with words what you are about to express with your body.
-As you get into it never stop listening to what your partner says and keep in mind he/she has a right to stop no matter how far things have gone.
-Gradually take your clothes off each other paying close attention to your partner’s body language - are things moving too fast, or do they seem on target? If you sense any wavering at this point you should reduce speed or prevent.
-As you kiss and start to relax listen to what your mind tells you to do, follow your instincts and your partner’s indications.
-Enjoy what you are doing, take time to get to know your partner’s body and let them get to know yours. You never get another first time or another first time together.
-Previous to moving on to intercourse (penetration) ensure that you both still want to “go all the way”, it is hard to go round and can’t be undone. Sex is not a test of love, it is a way of expressing it.
-Go behind your instincts and listen to your heart. By the time you are bodily ready for intercourse you should be relaxed and at ease enough to let nature take its course.

The things you need:
-Condoms
-Birth Control

Tags: Sex and Intimacy //