Love Secret of Joyfully Married Couples

Posted on January 10th, 2008 by olga

The main secret is that your partner should be a center of attention more than yourself.
Your task is to award your partner’s pleasure and happiness above your own-it means to have altruistic love. Altruism is typically identified as helping others with no getting anything back.
The rulings:
-Married people with plenty of altruistic love for their partner had happier marriages.
-Married or not, altruistic love for an important other was tied to higher levels of universal happiness.
Rate how strongly you agree or disagree with these declarations:
-I would endure all things for the sake of the one I love.
-I would rather suffer myself than agree to the one I love suffer.
-I cannot be pleased unless I place the one I love’s pleasure before my own.
-I am usually eager to let go my own wishes to let the one I love realize his/hers.
By a long shot, the majority of survey participants agreed or strongly agreed with those statements.
Almost nine in 10 agreed or strongly had the same opinion with the first statement. Approximately seven in 10 were in agreement or strongly agreed with the second statement. And approximately eight in 10 were of the same opinion or strongly agreed with the last two statements.
Happier in Marriage
Married people that express a high sense of altruistic love in the direction of their important other turn out to have much happier marriages. Married people get a considerable increase in marital happiness if they have this kind of self-sacrificing, put the interest of the other previous to my own interest point of view on their romantic and close dealings.
Altruistic love can produce an optimistic cycle in relationships.
If you put your partner’s interests ahead of yours, he/ she will be pleased about that and does the same back to you and it makes stronger the relationship and it leads to a happier marriage. That’s the mechanism. Married people were more probable to grade high in altruistic love than the unmarried. However altruistic love was an advantage for everyone - no wedding band required.
Having feelings of altruistic love in the direction of the a partner, a simple romantic interest, which hasn’t gone as far as either of those relationships - not only leads to greater marital happiness but common boost in general joy in one’s life.