DoYou Have Any Difficulty in Reaching Orgasm?

Posted on December 15th, 2007 by olga

A guide for women who have difficulty in reaching orgasm.
A great number of very young women are worried about their lack of ability to climax. But the fact is, unlike males, the majority females have to learn to achieve orgasm.
And some researches show that the majority younger women do not manage to climax until some significant time after they have started sexual activity. In addition, when they do ‘come’ for the very first time, they do so in a variety of ways. In one survey researches found that:
47 per cent climaxed for the first time through masturbation
32 per cent through sexual intercourse
20 per cent through petting
1 per cent while sleeping.
In the identical survey researches found that the most common age of first orgasm was 18, but that it could be as late as the 40s!
Even in their 20s and 30s, numerous women have trouble reaching that elusive orgasm. These days, most sex therapists consider that if you can’t climax (or don’t climax easily) it’s a good idea to start by practicing on your own.
This may seem understandable, but many women, even today, feel very inhibited about self-love and can’t help feeling that it isn’t something they should be doing. But the fact is, masturbating helps you to learn just accurately which pressures and rhythms you need with the purpose of bring you to orgasm. In particular, you need to discover your own body so as to discover out exactly how to stimulate your clitoris.
On the other hand, it’s significant that, if you are using masturbation to help learn about orgasm, you should always do it when you are warm, cosy, relaxed… and, alone.
Once you have learned to climax easily, you can then show your partner precisely what you need so as to make you come.
Of course this may feel uneasy in the beginning, but it’s significant that you learn to be in touch with your feelings and in addition to communicate how you like your body to be touched. When you can’t find the words, use caresses. Nevertheless, attempt also to build up a vocabulary with your partner that is simple to use. A lot of pairs find their sex lives fail simply for the reason that they don’t have the right language. And saying: ‘Could you rub my …er …er?’ isn’t specific enough to be helpful.
Some women, by the way, discover achieving orgasm much easier with the help of a vibrator. But for many females actually getting hold of a sex aid that they can rely on isn’t easy.
By the time you’re in your 30s, 40s or 50s, you should be able to get to orgasm quite easily provided that you have a loving, understanding partner.
Nevertheless, if you are still not having any orgasms at all, or if you’re still having huge trouble ‘getting there’, then it’s definitely time to seek practical help. In the UK, one way of doing this is to talk to a doctor.
(To be continued)